Newborns– “No Hatting, Patting, Chatting?”

picnic_smYes, I have heard of this, “No hatting, patting, chatting.” Who has coined this term? Carla Hartley of

So, what does this mean? I can’t get a cute baby hat for my baby? Well, for immediately after birth, the baby does not need a silly stripped or “cute” hat. In fact according to some research (see resources), the idea of hat does not make sense. The mama needs to smell that baby scent right after birth. It actually helps the third stage of labor. What third stage? Many moms, parents, and whoever forget that the placenta is the actual third stage of delivery. So, the mom needs to smell that wonderful new baby scent and she cannot do so if the baby’s head is covered.

So, what if the baby gets cold? No chance as long as the baby is skin to skin immediately after birth and has blankets on top of him, then the baby is going to be just fine without the hat. In fact he might get over heated with a hat on. Labor and delivery are a lot of work, the baby’s circulation might not work so great with a hat on his head. So, take the stupid hat off. And if a nurse tries to put it on again, just continue to take it off! Tell her to throw the thing away! 😉

OK, so what about the no patting? What does this mean? Sometimes a doctor likes to pat the baby a lot to get fluids and stuff like that out of the poor kid or to get him breathing better. But, really, is it necessary? Not really. Unless the baby has a real hard time breathing, those extra pats and rubs are not necessary. Just give the baby to mom or let dad catch the baby even and then hand baby to mom. That’s all the patting that is needed. No need to clean the baby up right away. All that vermix is also good for the baby. Do not rub it off!

So, what about no chatting? Isn’t it okay to celebrate a little bit–we have a baby! Break out the champagne! Well, it is better for mom and baby after all that work of labor just to have some quiet time to get to know each other. Let mom deliver the placenta quietly and try not to talk too much. Let mom adore her little baby in her arms after delivery. Let dad cut the cord quietly (after it stops pulsating—or even after the placenta is delivered). (Or just have a lotus birth and let the cord fall off naturally later). It is quiet time now, mom and baby have been through a lot–let them rest for a few hours. Visitors can stop by later. It is best for mom and baby to have quiet time to learn how to breastfeed and get to know each other. The doula can even leave now that quiet time is here. She can always return later if mom needs extra support breastfeeding, etc. (Doula is probably ready for a break too!)

So, let’s remember these items–we should encourage moms to stop and listen to their bodies and remember–“no hatting, patting, and chatting.” Sounds good to me!

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